Step son got into it bc he said he works and I don’t. I told him you don’t pay for diack and I have several rental properties for my income. He doesn’t do any chores or anything bc he works. But I don’t see that cash right?
In other cultures the adult kids contribute to the household but in our rich white culture they just stack cash and don’t do a dang thing.
“Anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.” Isaac Asimov
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Saying that coming from a spot of wanting your life to be great.
Its not that unemployment is bad, its the trend over the past few years and susceptibility to reverting to prior versions of yourself that you worked hard to shed. Career uncertainty, leaning into wife because of her success, navigating a bunch of teenagers. On the outside looking in, seems precarious.
with kids. How much more could his life get destroyed?
That's kind of like getting drunk at a strip club and paying the stripper $1k to give you a handjob...but instead of leaving it at that you take the stripper home, and later move her into your house. Nothing good can come of it, nothing.
I would rather die than deal with someone else's kids living in my house, dealing with my own can be bad enough sometimes.
This sounds shiddy so I'll preface by saying I do love my wife and kids, but mine have been gone a couple of days and won't get back until later next week...It's like having a whole new lease on life, I feel like I'm 23 again. I watched NBA playoffs LOUD last night in the living room, I'll probably make some vodka drinks tonight, tomorrow I'm going to go up to the local bar and drink as many beers as I want for as long as I want.
No tball practices to rush off to, no crying, screaming, fighting, or watching god awful kids shows that eat at my soul(A special FUCKK YOU to The Wiggles)....Just whatever I want to do, whenever. It feels great. I am refreshed, sleeping better, have more energy...It's really been eye opening how much the 'lifestyle' has worn me down.
It's going to take me a month to get back into it when they get back.
then you are fine, don't worry about what others think. I just wouldnt do anything for him. Let all of his clothes and dishes get dirty and clean up after yourself for a while. That will get the point across.
Depends - does the rental net income equal his salary or a grown man salary? If it's significant net income, then no one should care if you sleep till 930, or have a job or not.
Diary of a rich kid… One time I took a ten strip of L for UIC pavilion WSP show. Drive back after and I had my dog w me, stopped in the south side bc I was empty, and a diesel 1985 Volkswagen. Dog kept the people at bay while I refueled.
Followed a tractor trailer going 55 for a few hours bc I was still tripping balls. Made it home safe and went to high school class Monday morning.
his kids more than she gave the stepson (showing favoritism to them). But the fact that they're not even old enough to graduate yet leaves no pudding to show the proof. Which is a bad move/conversation for the wife to bring up. It sounds hateful and agenda driven. If it were me, I'd just point out we'll see when (oldest non-step child) graduates, and then give a very leery look and shake my head slightly, indicating she's making problems out of hypotheticals.
However, in this situation, I would straight up ask your wife, "If I discuss with my mom that she should give each child of our household equal gifts, will you agree to insist your parents do the same?"
As far as the job thing goes, there is going to be resentment if your wife is going to work every day and you are sleeping in. And stepkid probably sees it, and if you two don't get along, will exploit it.
You are too blind to see most people calling him out. He was dumb for bringing his crap on here... (again, we sometimes do and also call out the crap that we are adding to our own situation) you were dumb for adding to it.
You could have just left it alone here, and dealt with it like an adult, but you chose not to. He could have taken his loss and dealt with it like an adult. He seems to have disappeared, maybe realizing this is not the place to deal with this.
If my wife was laying in bed all day, playing with coins and bragging on the internet about “living the good life” after walking off her first attempt at a job in six months after a couple days… I might go on a rampage
90% of the crap married couples argue about, is really to avoid the one big problem they never argue about, or possibly don't even know about, or won't even consider thinking about.
In the grand scheme of things, whatever parent/relative gives whatever to whatever kid, is not that big a deal. The bigger deal is in what is not talked about. I got hints in the two threads......
The best advice I can give any man/husband in this situation is to figure out your wife. If you do that, you will figure out yourself.
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